In the beginning of every relationship, lust is at an all time high. You literally can’t keep your hands off each other. You’re having sex everywhere and anywhere and you’re on cloud 9.
But there comes a point where you have to stop and ask yourself am I in lust or in love?
It’s hard to see clearly when you’re in the throws of lust. It can be a very hazy, confusing line. So I’m here to give that line some clarity. Here are 5 ways to tell the difference between lust and love…
- There’s more to your relationship than just sex
People often mistake lust for love. Lust is an important part of a relationship, but it’s not EVERYTHING. There has got to be more than constantly tearing each other’s clothes off. There has to be substance, a foundation of friendship, respect, and communication.
- You enjoy spending time with him even when you’re not doing it
You have things in common, you enjoy doing things (other than sex) together, you laugh a lot, you love getting to know more about his family and friends, you love listening to how passionate he is about his work. You really enjoy being around this guy with your clothes on.
- You accept their flaws and love them anyway
When you’re in lust, after a while his flaws will start to come out. It’s bound to happen when you spend any amount of time with someone. But when you’re in lust, they start to really bug you. The only time they’re not bugging you is when you’re in the heat of the moment. Love accepts their flaws. It understands that everyone has them and that’s what makes a person who they are.
- When shit hits the fan you have each other’s backs
When you’re in lust, everything is rainbows, butterflies and hot sex. Life is great. But that doesn’t last forever. Life is going to throw curve balls at you. She’s gonna knock you on your ass and spit in your face sometimes. When that happens, sex isn’t really going to help you. You’re going to need someone who’s going to be there to pick you back up, dust you off and tell you you’re going to be ok. So ask yourself, when the going gets tough will this person be there for me in the way I need them to be and vice versa?
- Love isn’t forced
Did you ever have that girlfriend or maybe you’ve done this yourself where you tried to force a relationship with someone you were having crazy hot sex with? In between romps you thought, Hey maybe we should grab dinner sometime, And then when you got to dinner you were like what was I thinking, but I really want a relationship? Come on, don’t lie! Well love isn’t forced. You shouldn’t TRY to make a relationship when there’s nothing there besides sex. Love happens organically.
Sex is one part of a relationship and I’m not trying to downplay its importance. I firmly believe that you should be attracted to your partner and have hot sex no matter how long you’ve been together. But this is only one of many parts that makes a relationship so special. If you’re having sex and it’s only sex, that’s great! If you’re looking for something more and you feel like this might just be about the great sex, then do yourself a favor and be honest about what you really want and make it happen.