On this month’s interview for my Game-Changing Girls- Shining The Spotlight On Inspiring Women Doing Incredible Things series, I had the pleasure of interviewing my dear friend and fellow Life Coach, Shaina Leis.
Shaina is a Certified Life Coach and Educator who helps Millennials break free from the wrong path, find their real passion and live the life they’ve always dreamt of. She helps people discover their dream career and finally get paid to do work they love.
I met Shaina freshman year of college when we pledged the same sorority. We’ve been amazing friends ever since, and share a deep love and passion for anything personal growth related. Shaina has been a huge support system in my coaching journey and her work continues to inspire me every day and I know it will for you too.
This interview is so juicy and filled with so much wisdom. You’re definitely going to want to read this one, so let’s jump in!
JC: Tell me a little about yourself and your journey to becoming a coach.
SL: Where do I begin! Well, I’ve always been a “really good kid.” Growing up, that’s what people would always say to me. I followed the rules, I got good grades and I always strived to do the “right” thing according to my parents and other authority figures. This mode of operation served me fine for a while until I was nearing high school graduation and had to make some very big decisions.
SL: Well, to make a long story short, because I was never taught how to think for myself, I chose the path laid out for me and frankly the path laid out for everybody else– go to college, get good grades and get a steady, well-paying job. Cue my major quarter-life-crisis at 24 years old, feeling trapped at a job I hated doing meaningless work. I had a complete breakdown– Who am I? What do I want? What am I good at? What’s my purpose?
SL: At that time in my life, I knew very little about myself or what my future held. But, I did know two things and they were this: 1. I was meant to do something great with my life and 2. I wasn’t going to stop looking until I found it. This deep knowing and determination led me to quit my job, move cross country and start my journey of self-discovery. Needless to say, my entire life changed as a result. I learned how to disconnect from who I thought I was or should be, and instead step into who I really am. The sense of freedom that comes along with being uniquely, authentically you is what creates a truly meaningful, joyful life.
SL: So, on one hand, I was thrilled to have this incredible knowledge which completely changed my life for the better, but on the other hand I was angry that the education system failed to incorporate such critical lessons in our classrooms. I felt like it was my responsibility to share this knowledge with as many people as I possibly could. It’s the reason I became a life coach– I felt like I had the cure for cancer.
JC: What’s been the biggest lesson in life that you’ve learned so far?
SL: The biggest lesson I’ve learned is how incredibly important it is to stay true to yourself 100% of the time. The life we create for ourselves is made up of a bunch of choices– both big, small and tiny. So if you’re making decisions from a place of fear– I should, I shouldn’t, I have to, what will everybody think– your life is not going to be as spectacular as you’d like it to be.
SL: However, if you learn how to connect and tap into the truest part of you and steer the course of your life from that place, you’ll never be let down.
JC: If you could go back in time, what would be the 1 thing you would tell yourself?
SL: Stop living for the future! I was guilty of a future mindset– saying things like I just gotta do XYZ and then I’ll be happy. I justified staying at bad jobs or in unhealthy relationships because I thought if I just stuck it out, things would get better. However, I’ve learned that the best decisions for our futures are made in the present moment with the facts at hand.
JC: What is the biggest issue that people come to you with and how do you help them?
SL: Most people come to me because they want to quit their job and pursue a passion, but “can’t” because they have responsibilities and bills to pay.
SL: The truth is, there will always be obstacles to overcome, however, winners stop talking about the obstacles and instead gather information, be tenacious and take ongoing action. So ultimately, I help people get out of their own way and become active problem-solvers and go-getters. I don’t “do” excuses, it’s not my style. If you want to learn from me, you must be willing to roll up your sleeves and be prepared to take control, because as Marie Forleo says, everything is figureoutable.
JC: What’s been your biggest struggle and how have you overcome it?
SL: Oh my goodness…letting go of outcomes! I have a terrible habit of wanting things to go exactly as I envision them. So you can imagine my emotional state if and when things don’t work out as planned. Watch out world!
SL: I’m slowly learning how to trust the process, lean on the Universe for support, and just relax. I’m a work in progress but the sense of calm that comes along with this is reason enough to keep working out the muscle.
JC: What are you loving most about your business and life right now?
SL: I love the growing community that I’ve built! Bringing together people with the same struggles and the same desires is amazing. I’m really proud that I am able to guide these people through such a low point in their life. I’m also really proud of my new online course, Find Your Passion in 13 Days & Never Work a Job You Hate Again! It’s a program built on pure passion.
SL: What I’m loving about life, in general, is just the sense of peace, calm and freedom I feel right now. No drama and no stress.
JC: Where can we find you?
SL: You can find me over on YouTube at www.youtube.com/shainaleis where I share weekly videos that educate, inspire and entertain all at the same time. You can also find me at www.shainaleis.com where I have some free goodies and my brand new online course!
SO many nuggets of wisdom in this interview! Hope you enjoyed this interview with Shaina as much as I did!