The wedding season is upon us! It’s that time of year many people dread, especially those of us who are single. It seems like all of your time and money is spent on weddings and it can leave you with feelings of anxiety, anger and jealously.
If that green eyed monster is rearing its ugly head and you dream of murdering anyone else who asks you to be a bridesmaid, then this blog is for you.
Although I’m not technically single, I can relate to the sense of dread that comes with wedding season. What’s up 9 weddings this year, a bridesmaid and Maid of Honor 4 times?? Bye bye summer. Bye bye paycheck.
Let me back track for a second and state that I absolutely LOVE MY GIRLFRIENDS and would do anything for them. I am so incredibly happy and excited for each and every one of them.
But let’s be real for a sec. Weddings can totally suck.
Yes you’re happy for them, but deep down you want the same thing which can lead to some pissed off feelings of jealousy and rage. Where is he already? Why am I not married? When is it going to be my turn? I hate being fake happy for all these bitches when I’m really not.
You get my point.
If you find yourself in this position, know you are not alone. This is a totally normal reaction to have. I would question your sanity if you didn’t feel this way.
Here are some tips to not only survive, but thrive during wedding season as a single lady (and also not punch the DJ in the face if he plays the Beyoncé song)
- Celebrate the couple getting married
Well duh! Of course I’m going to celebrate them. I’m going to celebrate them by spending thousands of dollars and all of my time off to celebrate them. Yea, I get it, but that’s not what I mean. I mean celebrate them as a couple. What makes their relationship so great? Why can you be happy for them? What makes you excited to see them get married? This will help get you out of the negative thinking cycle and put out that positive energy. It also helps you to get excited about a potential relationship of your own. If you’re constantly negative about everyone else getting married, it’s going to be real tough for you to attract the relationship you want. The energy you put out is the energy you get back. So get excited about the lovely couple getting hitched!
- Go with friends or bring a girlfriend as your date
Ok so you’re single and everyone is there with a date. That can leave you feeling lonely and depressed. That’s no fun. So make it a point to go with a bunch of friends (even if some of them are couples) or bring a friend as your date. Have fun, dance, have some drinks, laugh. This is a party remember?? There’s free booze and music. Pretend that you’re out at a bar (except much more dressed up and with better food) and let loose!
- Stop comparing and despairing
Compare and despair is the killer of all joy. Comparing yourself to others and where they’re at with relationships is the number one buzz kill. STAY OFF OF FACEBOOK. Seriously that is the biggest place to compare and despair. Your newsfeed is blowing up with engagement announcements and wedding pictures and it makes you feel like crap. Shut it down. Turn off your computer. Leave your cell at home. Go for a walk. Do anything but be on social media if it makes you feel like crap. Take this time to remind yourself that you are EXACTLY where you need to be. It might not necessarily be where you want to be, but it’s where you need to be. Keep the faith that your time will come. The right guy is out there waiting for you. He might not show up when you want him, but he is there and waiting. So every time you find yourself comparing and despairing, stop what you’re doing, go for a walk or do anything that will take your mind off of everyone else, and remind yourself and you are EXACTLY where you need to be.
- Do something nice for yourself
You’re spending all this time and money on others. Take some time and do something nice for yourself. Treat yourself to something extra special. Buy a dress to wear that you wouldn’t normally splurge on. Treat yourself to a spa day. Do something that’s going to make you feel really good. If you’re feeling really good, it’s much easier to feel really good for other people as well.
- Don’t listen to what other people say
You’re grandma’s introducing you as her granddaughter who’s always the bridesmaid, but never the bride. Your girlfriends are trying to cheer you up by saying “don’t worry, you’ll find someone soon”. Your mom introduces you to her friend’s son who’s a doctor and single. And good lord you can already tell by looking at him why he’s single. You literally want to run as fast as you can to join the peace corp. so you can have an excuse to never come to another wedding again. Everyone has an opinion. Everyone is going to tell you what they think you should do. Only you know what’s best for you. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says. You are in charge of your life and you have the power to do, say, think, feel any way that you want to. Let all that noise go in one ear and out the other. You are in control of your life and the opinions of others are of no concern to you.
When all else fails, just remember to have fun and dance a lot.