It’s one thing to love someone, but it’s a whole other ball game when it comes to actually liking someone.
Justin and I have this conversation on a pretty regular basis. It’s about how we not only love each other, but how much we LIKE each other.
Justin and I love to spend time together. He’s the one person I never get sick of. We enjoy the same things and love to have fun. We get each other and we support one another’s passions. I don’t know a damn thing about fantasy football, but I will sit there and listen to him talk about it because I know it means something to him. Same for me. He doesn’t know anything about being a girl, ie. clothes, hair, makeup, nails, but he’ll sit there and listen to me and help me decide on what shoes to wear because he knows it means something to me.
I was watching a talk show the other day while I was on the treadmill and an actor was on (I have no idea who he was or what he show was about, but that’s irrelevant), and he was talking about how he has been married to his wife HAPPILY for 12 years. Of course everyone wanted to know what their secret was. His response was that they not only love each other, but they actually really like each other and enjoy spending time together. I thought to myself, glad I’m not the only one who gets this!
Of course I love Justin, that’s not even a question. But to really like him and enjoy being with him is something entirely different. I always laugh when we have an argument because I tell him I love you, but that doesn’t mean I like you right now. It’s our little inside joke that hey I really do love you, I always will no matter what, but you’re being a real big pain in my ass right now and I don’t like you very much.
Hey, we’re honest. What can I say?
So the next time you’re out on a date or you’re talking to your guy, ask yourself, do I really LIKE this person? Do I enjoy spending time with them? Do we have fun together? Is there respect there? Does he encourage my passions and dreams? Do I encourage his? Do we laugh a lot? Does he listen when you talk? Do you listen when he talks? How do you FEEL when you’re around him?