There is so much info out there on manifesting with “The Secret” and everyone claiming that all you have to do is think positively and you’ll attract anything you desire. While thinking positive is one part of manifesting it’s not everything. So if you’ve tried to manifest something into your life and it still hasn’t shown up, this blog is for you.
Here are my 6 steps to manifesting love or anything else you really want:
- Get clear on what it is you really want
Seems simple enough right? But for some people, this is a hard question. What is it that you really want? Is it that amazing relationship? A new car? A dream job? We want this thing because we believe it will bring us happiness in some way. So get crystal clear on what it is you want and why you want it. What will it bring you? How will it add to your life?
- Heal old wounds & dismantle old beliefs
Thinking positively is great but if you don’t really feeeeeel like you deserve that amazing relationship because of some outdated belief system it’s never going to happen. Growing up and having different life experiences shape our belief systems. In order to attract what we want we have to make sure we believe we can have them. So get out ye old journal and start exploring this thing you want to attract into your life. Do you feel any resistance around being able to attract it? If so what is the resistance? Where is it coming from? What happened in your past to make you feel like you’re not deserving of getting what you want most? Whatever comes up for you just let it happen. If you need help healing those wounds check out some of my previous blogs with some great tools to help you heal the wounds of the past, dismantle old beliefs and reprogram those new updated belief systems. Trust me when I tell you THIS is the most crucial step of the whole manifesting process.
- Focus on what you want to attract and don’t worry about the how
We tend to get caught up in the HOW it’s going to happen. Don’t worry about the how. Keep your focus on the what. Every time you find yourself saying things like “That’s a ridiculous dream, that is never going to happen, how would I even begin to do that, how am I going to make this happen?”, stop yourself. Put your focus back onto what you want to manifest and why.
- Create the feeeeeeeling of having what you want
Manifesting is SO much more than just thinking. It’s about really feeeeeeeeling what it would be like to have that thing in your life. Feelings of excitement, joy, happiness are high vibe feelings. When you’re vibing high you’re going to attract more high vibe things into your life. And if you have no idea what I’m talking about check out last week’s blog about what vibes and frequencies have to do with manifesting. Visualization is a great way to get into that high vibe feeling state. A great way to visualize what you want is to sit quietly with your eyes close and set a timer for 5 minutes. See what your life would look like if you were to have this in your life. Really feeeeeeel it. Use your 5 senses and get as detailed as possible. I like to play a game with my clients called “Your ideal day with your ideal guy”. They do exactly what I just said and I have them go into detail about what it would be like to spend an amazing day in your dream relationship. Start when you first wake up and visualize your day using as many details as possible until you go to sleep. This exercise is one of the fastest ways to get into high vibing territory.
- Trust and believe it will happen even when there’s no evidence
Ooooo so hard to do but oh so important. When we’re manifesting it’s so easy to get into the “I don’t see it so, therefore, this shit isn’t working and Jen you’re crazy” mindset. This is when trust and faith are SO important. You have to trust that whatever you want to manifest is on its way even when there is zero evidence of that being your reality. This is going to be a trust test of your faith, but if you believe it even when you can’t see it, it will come. Remember the universe is always conspiring to give us what we want.
- Practice gratitude
Practicing gratitude is another easy and great way to keep those vibes at a high frequency. Be grateful for everything you have in your life right now even if it’s not exactly what you want it to look like. If you have trouble finding something to be grateful for start small. It doesn’t have to be a production. Keep it simple. You can be grateful for your warm bed, a body that moves, the smell of freshly cut grass or a glass of wine after a long day. Find something to be grateful for every day.
Practice these 6 steps and you’ll be manifesting in no time!