When Things Feel Out Of Control You Have A Choice

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Writing my typical blog today just didn’t feel right or appropriate. I don’t typically incorporate anything political into my work.  To be honest, I’ve never felt a reason to. But waking up today shook me to my core. As I scrolled through my Facebook feed, all I could think of doing was hiding under my covers indefinitely.

But before I disconnected from the internet altogether, I came across a post from Martha Beck. Martha is one of my favorite speakers and life coaches.  Her post reminded me that no matter what’s going on in the world it’s important to remember who you are, what you value and to continue to love no matter what.

I wanted to share with you what she wrote as I hope it brings you some comfort as well…

My darlings, I see many of you are already writing about the catalytic event that’s happened. Since you’re reading this post, I’m going to assume that you’re not rejoicing. Personally, I’d really like to get up and walk out of this particular movie.

Here’s the thing, though. We can’t let this push us into dark, downward spirals. We can’t add injury to insult by becoming wild with fear, or going back to smoking, or hating what is. Instead, we can feel into our shaken hearts with compassion and an open mind, because we have no idea what the final outcome of any event may be.

This is a time I call Square One. The general guidelines for these periods are to pull attention into the present, and to allow ourselves to feel what we’re feeling. Don’t follow your mind into anger or fear. Don’t catastrophize before there’s clear and present danger. Instead, look around the room. Feel your arms, your feet, your shoulders. Feel how gravity still works. Notice there are no monsters here, except perhaps the ones in your mind. You’re okay. Right now, you’re okay.

Remember that troubled times are our allies in awakening. They compel us to access the deep, untroubled beings that we really are. The hero engages with destiny only on the road of trials. Each of us is the central character of our own story, and tonight, it’s true, the road ahead looks long. Let’s use it as a chance to grow wiser and stronger, to become heroes we’re all meant to become.

So now we have a choice. We can curse the world and everyone on Facebook (which isn’t helping anyone or anything) OR we can choose to love more deeply, stand up for what is right even when it feels like the world is against us, become wiser and stronger and support one another even more. These are the only things I have control over.

Here’s a meditation that I’ve found helpful, especially on a day like today. I hope it helps you too.

Right now I’m choosing to be hopeful. I’m choosing to continue doing what I love, bringing as much positivity into the world as I can and reminding the people I care about just how much I love them.

I’m choosing to move forward.

xo Jen

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