In honor of St. Patrick’s Day and my Irish heritage, I want to talk about my journey from being sucky in love to lucky in love.
Lucky like a 4 leaf clover or a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow.
See what I did there? 😉
When you’re in the midst of dating you’re going to come across a lot of leprechauns. Small men who like to play tricks, hide their pot of gold and partake in grand schemes of mischief.
Wow that was a great metaphor for half of my ex boyfriends. None of which were red heads or had pointy ears by the way.
I’m going to be real honest here because this is my blog and I can be.
Dating can SUCK. Like totally and completely SUCK.
It can be really hard to find that pot of gold when the other leprechauns are trying to hide it from you.
But the good news is it’s possible. I know it’s possible because I’ve done it.
It wasn’t always easy though.
When I was in my early 20s I was a total mess. I was running around town without a clue of who I was, what I wanted or what I DESERVED. I let men dictate how I felt about myself.
If he called I felt worthy. If he didn’t I was worthless. If he asked me out I felt deserving. If he didn’t I felt not good enough. If he kissed me I felt lovable. If he didn’t I felt like there was something wrong with me.
That was a dangerous situation to be in. To let a man have all of that power over my self-worth was not my proudest moment.
It wasn’t until I realized that I had the power to decide how I wanted to feel that everything changed.
I no longer cared if he called or not. If he wanted to date me or not. If he wanted to kiss me or not.
Those things didn’t matter because I knew that if he didn’t want those things that he was not worth my time or energy. I realized very quickly that the guys that were worth my time and energy would make me worth their time and energy.
After that it was game on.
I dated a lot, but I was in charge of who I wanted to go out with and how much time and energy I wanted to invest in that person. It was funny because all of these really great guys started showing up out of nowhere. But there was one in particular who stood out from the crowd.
Now I get to wake up every day and feel like I’ve seriously found that pot of gold. The leprechauns have been banished to whatever hole they’ve crawled out of and I get to enjoy my pint of Guinness and vegetarian Shepard’s pie with the love of my life.
How lucky am I?
But in all seriousness, luck has absolutely nothing to do with it. Know your worth, know what you deserve and don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.
YOU are in charge of your life and only YOU get to decide how you want to live it.