You just broke up with your boyfriend. You’re feeling hurt, vulnerable, and lonely. You go out with your girlfriends and meet a cute guy at the bar. You start flirting and before you know it you’re making out and going home together.
Is this a good idea?
Of course your girlfriends are all about it and cheering you on from the other side of the bar, but in my opinion, no it’s not a good idea and I’ll tell you why.
Having a rebound is like having a drink or eating a carton of ice cream after a shitty day. All it does is numb the pain. It might make you feel better in the moment, but I guarantee you just like a hangover, you’ll be feeling like shit the next day.
It’s so important to take this time to go through all of the emotions and feelings of a breakup. It’s uncomfortable and painful. As humans we will do anything to stay as far away from uncomfortable and painful as we can. But right now it’s important to sit with uncomfortable and painful and FEEL your feelings.
Sit with your feelings. Take some time to be alone. Do things that make you feel really good. Drinking, ice cream and men are not what I’m talking about here.
Go for a walk, meet your girlfriends for coffee, take a yoga class. Do things that are going to nurture you and support you during this time.
You’ll know you’re ready to move on when you’ve fully mourned the relationship, the pain has subsided and you can start to see a future without him. Then and ONLY then is it a good idea to get back out into the dating world. And if you meet a guy at a bar and want to take him home, then by all means girl, go for it!