Friday night I was invited to a masquerade ball with a girlfriend of mine. At the party was a tarot card reader. Of course, I had to sign up. It was a scene literally out of a movie.
Me in gown and mask in an old historic mansion. I walked through a hidden door to see the psychic sitting in the corner of a dark room (this has absolutely nothing to do with this blog, but I really wanted to paint the picture of how out of a movie this was.)
The psychic pulls out the devil card (again right out of a movie) and I literally gasped. But she clarified that the devil card just means that you’re constantly comparing yourself to others and this is a huge block in building my coaching business.
I can’t say I was surprised. It’s super easy in the online world to constantly compare yourself to where everyone else is.
Four other instances happened after that where someone came to me saying that their biggest struggle right now was comparing themselves to where everyone else is. So I took it as a sign that I needed to write a blog about it.
Comparison is the thief of joy- Theodore Roosevelt
Ain’t that the truth.
So here’s what I want to say about it…
Get so secure and love yourself so much that you stop caring about what everyone else is doing and what everyone else thinks.
If you find yourself constantly comparing you’re never going to get to where you want to go. Stay in your lane and focus on what you’re doing. We all have different paths in life. We’re all trying to make it. Looking around at what everyone else is doing is only going to slow you down,
Now that’s not to say that you can’t look around for inspiration because I do this often. I surround myself with high vibe women that keep me constantly inspired and motivated. But when I start comparing my journey to where they are, I know it’s time to take a step back. I put my blinders back on until I feel more grounded.
You’ll know the difference in your body when you look at someone’s life for inspiration and when you look at it from comparison. One feels exciting like anything’s possible and the other feels crippling and makes you feel not good enough.
When that feeling starts creeping in, it’s time to step away.
Also, no matter how perfect someone may seem, how amazing their life looks, how perfect their pictures are, no one has it ALL together. Everyone is struggling with something. Remember that your feed is just the highlight reel or people’s lives. It’s not the whole picture. You don’t know what they might be going through so please don’t ever put anyone on a pedestal.
So here’s the lesson. It doesn’t matter if someone has a better job than you, makes more money, is in a relationship, is married, has a family, owns a home, has a successful business, moved out of their parents house, travels all the time, goes out every night, has tons of friends, has a better body than you (whatever that means), has amazing clothes, perfect hair, and makeup…
It does not matter.
You are enough right now at this moment exactly where you are. It’s time to give zero fucks about what everyone else is doing.
Imagine waking up every day feeling so deeply secure with who you are that you feel nothing but joy and appreciation towards everyone around you. That it doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing because you feel complete love and gratitude for the life you have. It’s possible because by living your best life, you’re too busy to notice what everyone else is doing and more importantly you stop caring.