So you’ve found the thing that lights you up. The thing that you could do for hours and hours and it feels like no time has gone by. The thing that you feel called to do.
First, I want to say CONGRATULATIONS because that is a HUGE deal. People struggle to figure that out for years and you did, so give yourself a big ol’ pat on the back for that.
But even though you are beyond ecstatic about it, even though you KNOW this is the thing you need to be doing, you’re not doing it.
Why is that?
Here are some of the reasons I’ve heard or used myself…
I don’t have enough time.
I’m too busy with x,y,x.
I have other obligations that are more of a priority.
I’m so behind and overwhelmed.
And I TOTALLY get that. Those are real, legit concerns and I’m not trying to diminish that.
But underneath all of that is the real reason why you’re either constantly stopping and starting or not doing anything at all..
You’re afraid of how it might change you. You’re afraid you’re going to realize how amazing this thing is that you’re doing and can no longer stay in that soul-sucking job, stay in that dysfunctional relationship, keep yourself small, not speak your truth, not pursue your dreams.
You ‘re going to have to make some serious changes in your life because you’re growing and evolving and that is f’in terrifying!
Marianne Williamson says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves: Who am I to be brilliant? Gorgeous? Talented? Fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?”
The reason you’re not pursuing the thing that lights you up isn’t really because you don’t have enough time, money, resources, etc. It’s because you’re scared. And that’s ok. Be kind and compassionate with yourself. Doing this work is never easy. It causes you to step outside of your comfort zone and deal with your fears.
The next time you find yourself stuck, constantly stopping and starting, or just not doing anything at all, ask yourself: What am I really afraid of? What’s really going on here? Take some time to journal and reflect to see what comes up. Just free write for 5 minutes to find out what’s really holding you back. Sometimes it’s so subconscious we don’t even realize we’re doing it. Just allow whatever needs to come to come up. Be kind and compassionate with yourself. Ask for spiritual guidance to clear the fear. I love to use this exercise from Gabby Bernstein.
Once you’ve journaled and identified what the fear is to write down “I witness that my fear is telling me _________. I feel it in my _________ (part of the body) & it feels like _________.”
For example; I witness that my fear is telling me I’m not good enough. I feel it in my chest & it feels really guarded and heavy.
Next, breathe into it for 90 seconds. On the exhale release it and say “Inner guide I surrender this fear to you. Thank you for helping me reorganize this limiting belief and restore it back to love”.
You’ll instantly feel the fear lift. All of the excuses will fall away and getting back to doing what you love will feel simple and easy again.